Take this quiz to see if he is a narcissist:

1. Does he act out in verbally aggressive behaviors, or does he have 'rages', especially if he feels he has been insulted in some way? Does he blame 'you' or accuse you of being the one that is 'acting out' or 'out-of-control'?

2. In the beginning was he just 'too good to be true'?

3. Does he rely on you financially, or does he ask you to help him fund things?

4. Does he often spend outside of his budget?

5. Is everything always about him and is nothing ever about you? Does he seem insensitive to your needs, unappreciative of your input, or non-acknowledging of your accomplishments? Does he not recognize your giving, kindness, and thoughtfulness? Does he seem genuinely not interested in your life?

6. Is he controlling? Do you often feel manipulated?

7. Does he show one side (Dr. Jekyll) to the public (a perfected persona which you know is fake), and another side (Mr. Hyde) to you in private? Does he go out of his way to impress people?

8. Does his ego bruise easily, or is he hyper-vigilant to the slightest insult?

9. Does he expect special treatment or feel he is 'entitled' to it?

10. Does he talk about himself more than you feel is normal?

11. Does he avoid eye contact with you, or does he withhold sex or affection? Has he been unfaithful?

12. Does he seem to lack empathy or compassion for others, or does he 'fake' it to enhance his 'public persona'?

13. Do you feel emotionally battered and confused?

14. Have you noticed your confidence or self-esteem slipping?

15. Is he histrionic? In other words, in public does he hog the limelight, putting on exaggerated shows and telling fascinating stories of himself in order to be the center of attraction? Is he loud or does he act like he is on stage when engaging in simple conversations with other people?

Have You Broken Up With, or Are You In Love With a Man That Has a 'Counterfeit Heart'?

Understand what it's like to break up with a histrionic 
narcissist
so that you can get through the break up yet still keep your sanity (or whatever sanity he has left you with!)

Living with, Loving and LEAVING the Narcissist

Breaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basket case, the man with a narcissistic personality disorder is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined...

....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!

And to him they didn't! The narcissist has a 'counterfeit heart'!

"Read Tigress' books. Oh I wish I could've spent a mere few bucks and learned all that at 18 (the hurt I would've saved myself!!!). Read it, reread it. Feel it and live it." -Iris

Of course, you will never see this in the beginning of the relationship with a narcissistic man. Many women do not see any of these harmful qualities until the relationship gets serious because both the narcissist and his prey tend to idolize people in the beginning of relationships.

And being idolized feels good - so good that we often willingly overlook the red flags.

“Women know how to fake orgasm. Men know how to
fake an entire relationship.” ~ Sharon Stone

Whether or not this has happened to you, it is still a very painful realization when you come to discover that you meant absolutely nothing to someone you loved very much. The realization that this man never loved you (don't delude yourself) hurts beyond compare. It is hard to understand that a histrionic narcissist loves only himself, and, if anything, considered you more a 'love-rival' than a 'lover'.

Truth is, you didn't exist to the narcissist. The man with a narcissistic personality disorder is so totally and completely self-centered to the point of being the only person in his life - ever. You simply were a temporary ego-boost. A narcissist supplier (an enforcer and validator of his self-love). His mirror.

"Dear Friend,

Nobody knows better the pain of living with, loving, and leaving a sociopathic narcissist better than I. I have been there and I know, first hand, how it feels to be the guiding shadow of this damaged man. I know about the psychological, verbal, and emotional abuse. I know about the neglect. I know how it feels to never have had him there for you - ever.

I know what it is like to sit there in silence and listen to him talk about himself all day - and all night. I know what it is like to never, ever be acknowledged or put first.

I know what it is like to have him dislike everything about you - from your perfume to the car you drive to your very own friends. 

I know what to expect when breaking up with this man. And I know the damage that can be done to the woman that loves him and leaves him.

And I want to share my knowledge with you, so that you may be spared the heartache associated with a breakup in a narcissistic-based relationship.

If you want to read about this man ... and really learn all about everything you have been through, plus get real explanations to why you feel the way you do, then you must read on.

The secrets about him I am about to share with you will reveal the answers to your many questions and bring you to a better place and peace of mind.

Answers like...

  • why he has a callous disregard for you
  • why he treats you like 'The Enemy'
  • what are the histrionic and narcissism disorder signs and how can you recognize them
  • why any argument with him always leads to him being the 'damaged party ' and you feeling beaten without ever having even opened your mouth
  • why, even after you have left him, you still hurt instead of feeling good to finally be rid of all the pain caused by his antisocial behavior disorder or by his narcissism
  • why he hates everything you like - from your music preference and perfume, to your friends and pets
  • why he disagrees with any of your choices, opinions, or beliefs
  • how he truly feels about you, and why it matters to you so much
  • who the Toxic Narcissist is, and how to recognize which type of the Nine Types of Toxic Narcissists your man is (Yes, they are not all alike!)
  • why Narcissists are rarely faithful, and why it has nothing to do with you
  • what to expect in and after the breakup
  • why he has distorted views of you
  • why he never will be able to take responsibility for anything
  • how people who know him really feel about him, and why
  • why you went from his 'partner' to his 'rival' - almost overnight
  • what the "Three A's" are that motivate the narcissist and how they influenced your relationship with him
  • how to recover - really recover - from the worst nightmare of your life, loving and leaving a narcissist or sociopath
  • why he 'demonizes' and 'devalues' you
  • why, when you are around him, you behave in a manner that is totally unlike your normal, beautiful self
  • recognizing the symptoms and learning the definitions of Histrionics and Narcissism
  • how to survive a narcissist
  • narcissistic personality disorder, traits, and behavior in men
  • signs and traits of a narcissist relationship and a histrionic relationship

Sounds to good to be true? It's not! I can help you get the answers you need to his behavior so that you can finally find some peace in your life (and with yourself) ... Something that is probably long over due if you have been with anyone who has narcissism or has a narcissistic personality disorder!

"Narcissists become particularly shameless during a divorce. They accuse the other spouse of neglecting the children when the reverse is true. They hide their assets long before the formal divorce proceedings begin. They lie about their net worth so they don't have to part with alimony or child support. Some narcissists, both male and female, abandon their families all together and start new lives with more attractive, adoring and compliant partners. Leaving the previous spouse and children in a state of financial and psychological chaos is of no consequence to them. Many narcissists repeat these egregious patterns of behavior throughout their lives without shame or regret." ~ Linda Martinez-Lewi Ph.D.

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